My life used to be a mess, until I learned this: Don't get stuck talking about things; take actions when it is the right time. I run into lots of people that are stuck in a loop, at least when they talk to me. A crystal-clear example is a fellow (friend) I talk to every day. He first "complained" to me that "someone had stolen his garden hose a few months ago". On a different day, he told me who he suspected (an ex-roommate), later, about where it was stolen from (his back yard), and finally a week later, how much a new one would cost ($15), where he could buy it - (Walmart or Home Depot, or Lowes).
It seemed that every day he would keep bringing up and discussing his missing hose (that I did not bring it up, did not take, nor ask about), and I said at least 10 times in 2 weeks, "let's go to the store and buy one now".
He always had excuses, such as he will buy it later, or now is not a good time, or he will try and buy a new hose on Craigslist, etc. Then, he told me there were no used hoses on Craigslist, and I said for my final time: "let's go to the store and buy one now". Once more, he had some excuse ("I am waiting for a Spring sale").
I never asked him about his hose. I politely listened to his story about 25 times, I always was polite and answered him and offered him suggestions, but my bud has a mental block that did let him move from his belief he is missing a hose and needs a new one.
In my new life, I talk about things no more than a few times, then I take action. I choose not to labor over what is, instead I focus on what I do; and have fun and am now succeeding. I would never stay stuck over a $15 decision. Either I do not need a hose, or I bought a hose already and I would be smiling - I would forever know this, and will be spared the mental loop of being addicted to some trivial problem.
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Mark Shapiro, judgment expert, judgment broker, judgment writer, and a smile chaser. http://www.JudgmentBuy.com
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